Dating vs: Hanging Out

Dating has become non-existent in today's world. Hanging-out is very prevalent, people are getting married later and postponing having children (if they have any at all). This is contrary to what we have been taught and it needs to stop. This will only stop is we do something about it.

We are in a viscous cycle where dating has become rare. Because dating is rare then girls give in to hanging out because if they aren't going on dates then that is the second best. Then, because girls are allowing hanging out then guys get what they want without having to plan or pay for it. We are enforcing each others behaviors and it needs to change.

Elder Oaks said, 
"Young women, resist too much hanging out, and encourage dates that are simple, inexpensive, and frequent. Don’t make it easy for young men to hang out in a setting where you women provide the food. Don’t subsidize freeloaders. An occasional group activity is OK, but when you see men who make hanging out their primary interaction with the opposite sex, I think you should lock the pantry and bolt the front door.

If you do this, you should also hang up a sign, “Will open for individual dates,” or something like that. And, young women, please make it easier for these shy males to ask for a simple, inexpensive date. Part of making it easier is to avoid implying that a date is something very serious. If we are to persuade young men to ask for dates more frequently, we must establish a mutual expectation that to go on a date is not to imply a continuing commitment. Finally, young women, if you turn down a date, be kind. Otherwise you may crush a nervous and shy questioner and destroy him as a potential dater, and that could hurt some other sister." Dating vs: Hanging out


Challenge: Do all you can to go on frequent, simple, inexpensive dates. It doesn't need to be extravagant or long. It just need to be planned, paid for, and paired off.